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Welcome to Lavela Library, our home for evidence-based and expert-curated resources on what to expect physically and emotionally after reproductive loss—and how to get the right kind of support.

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Termination for medical reasons (TFMR)

TFMR Later in Pregnancy: What to Expect

Later TFMR often follows a serious diagnosis or change in prognosis, additional testing or specialist consultation, painful decision-making under time pressure, and logistical planning that may include travel or coordination of care.

Termination for medical reasons (TFMR)

Second Trimester TFMR: What to Expect

Before a second trimester TFMR, there may be additional ultrasounds or diagnostic testing, conversations with specialists, counseling about options and timing, scheduling travel, or logistical planning.

Termination for medical reasons (TFMR)

Grief After TFMR in the Third Trimester

In the third trimester of pregnancy, most people feel like they’re in the “safe zone” and don’t expect to receive such devastating, life-changing news about the pregnancy. There may have been baby names, plans, fetal movement, visible pregnancy ch...

Termination for medical reasons (TFMR)

Grief After TFMR in the Second Trimester

Second trimester TFMR often follows a diagnosis, a period of decision-making, and a medical experience that may have been emotionally intense and overwhelming.

Connect with someone who's been there

Real experiences from the Lavela community on the moments that stayed with them, what surprised them, and what helped along the way.

Share your story

What I wish people understood is that not every pregnancy ends with a baby coming home. Phrases that begin with "at least…" are not always comforting. OBGYN waiting rooms are not always joyful places. Some people announce pregnancies "too soon," not realizing that for some, that announcement is all they ever get.

First Trimester Recurrent Miscarriages

This is not something you simply "move on" from. It is a process, and even now, talking about it brings tears to my eyes. The advice I share with others is this: accept the outreach. Sometimes the most helpful support comes from someone unexpected—someone who understands because they've been there too.

Death Post Birth

Losing my beautiful baby boy at 17 weeks gestation completely and utterly has destroyed me as a person…I have 2 living children and it has been so difficult being a mother and grieving my son while my kids are so involved too.

Second Trimester

It's easy to brush it off as "just an early pregnancy," but the truth is, I wanted that baby deeply. The timing didn't negate the loss or the grief. The emotional whiplash—going from excitement, to hope, to disappointment—was incredibly hard.

First Trimester

I started to notice how others talked about women who get pregnant easily like it's an accomplishment and demonstrates her physical superiority. Whereas, women who experience pregnancy loss are often made to feel like that is somehow due to something being wrong with us.

IVF

Im now 6.5 months pregnant, due April with a baby girl. This journey changed me forever. Yes it made me stronger but it also showed me the importance of getting help, listening to your gut and understanding the fertility journey takes time.

IVF Terminating Pregnancy