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Welcome to Lavela Library, our home for evidence-based and expert-curated resources on what to expect physically and emotionally after reproductive loss—and how to get the right kind of support.

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All Chemical pregnancy Ectopic pregnancy Embryo loss Gravid hysterectomy Implantation failure Miscarriage Molar pregnancy Recurrent pregnancy loss Selective reduction Stillbirth Surrogate loss Termination for medical reasons (TFMR) Twin loss Vanishing twin

Stillbirth

Grieving a Stillbirth: Pregnancy Loss After 20 Weeks

Stillbirth is a very real loss of a baby. It can also imply the loss of a future, an identity, a set of plans, and a sense of safety. Because the pregnancy was far along, the grief can feel especially intense, poignant, and sharp.

Miscarriage

Grieving a Second Trimester Pregnancy Loss

By the second trimester, many people have had more appointments, shared the pregnancy more widely, or begun imagining life with a baby more concretely. That can make the loss feel both deeply personal and suddenly public.

Recurrent pregnancy loss

Trying to Conceive Again After Recurrent Pregnancy Loss: Fear, Hope, and Next Steps

After recurrent loss, another pregnancy may not feel simple or reassuring. Even a positive test can bring fear.

Ectopic pregnancy

Trying to Conceive After an Ectopic Pregnancy: What to Know

The answer depends on your treatment. If you were treated with methotrexate, your doctor may recommend waiting for a period of time before trying again. If you had surgery or were monitored without medication, the guidance may be different.

Chemical pregnancy

Grief After a Chemical Pregnancy

A chemical pregnancy often ends before others knew you were pregnant. Sometimes it happens so early that even you are still trying to make sense of what happened.

Miscarriage

Miscarriage While Mothering: How To Parent While Processing

Miscarriage can be difficult in any circumstance. When you’re already a parent, it can bring an additional layer of complexity.

Connect with someone who's been there

Real experiences from the Lavela community on the moments that stayed with them, what surprised them, and what helped along the way.

Share your story

What I wish people understood is that not every pregnancy ends with a baby coming home. Phrases that begin with "at least…" are not always comforting. OBGYN waiting rooms are not always joyful places. Some people announce pregnancies "too soon," not realizing that for some, that announcement is all they ever get.

First Trimester Recurrent Miscarriages

This is not something you simply "move on" from. It is a process, and even now, talking about it brings tears to my eyes. The advice I share with others is this: accept the outreach. Sometimes the most helpful support comes from someone unexpected—someone who understands because they've been there too.

Death Post Birth

Losing my beautiful baby boy at 17 weeks gestation completely and utterly has destroyed me as a person…I have 2 living children and it has been so difficult being a mother and grieving my son while my kids are so involved too.

Second Trimester

It's easy to brush it off as "just an early pregnancy," but the truth is, I wanted that baby deeply. The timing didn't negate the loss or the grief. The emotional whiplash—going from excitement, to hope, to disappointment—was incredibly hard.

First Trimester

I started to notice how others talked about women who get pregnant easily like it's an accomplishment and demonstrates her physical superiority. Whereas, women who experience pregnancy loss are often made to feel like that is somehow due to something being wrong with us.

IVF

Im now 6.5 months pregnant, due April with a baby girl. This journey changed me forever. Yes it made me stronger but it also showed me the importance of getting help, listening to your gut and understanding the fertility journey takes time.

IVF Terminating Pregnancy